how to be happy

How To Be Happy

The following article is by Andrew Walton of Cracking The Happiness Code

We all want to know how to be happy: To live a good life, feel fulfilled, be engaged, create things, and connect deeply with others.

And often, our search for increased happiness means we’re trying to add more and more wonderful things to our lives, when really what we need is to let go of the things that are preventing us from experiencing deep satisfaction in the first place.

These are things that cause suffering, pain, stress, hurt, anxiety, shame, and depression by holding on.

I’ve compiled an extensive list of 29 things we can give up to lead a happier life:

29. Give Up: Perfectionism

If there was ever a slow acting venom to sap the vigor of the human spirit, we could call it by the name: perfectionism.

Perfectionism paralyses us, making us unwilling to act for the fear of falling short of out ideals. And then it punishes us when we invariably do, for “perfect” is an impossible standard to live up to.

It’s one thing to always keep our head up, pointed towards our lofty goals – quite another if we’re constantly pushed back into the mud for doing so.

Giving up perfectionism and embracing continual growth is what allows us to enrich our lives, to have new experiences and develop new skills fluidly – without resistance.

How: Embrace the “beginner’s mindset.” Learn to love the acts of experimenting that are the basis of all learning, and let the results take care of themselves.

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stopwatchThis article is courtesy of Steve Pavlina (Personal Development for Smart People).

Heuristics are rules intended to help you solve problems.  When a problem is large or complex, and the optimal solution is unclear, applying a heuristic allows you to begin making progress towards a solution even though you can’t visualize the entire path from your starting point.

Suppose your goal is to climb to the peak of a mountain, but there’s no trail to follow.  An example of a heuristic would be:  Head directly towards the peak until you reach an obstacle you can’t cross.  Whenever you reach such an obstacle, follow it around to the right until you’re able to head towards the peak once again.  This isn’t the most intelligent or comprehensive heuristic, but in many cases it will work just fine, and you’ll eventually reach the peak.

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This article was written by Leo Babauta of ZenHabits reknown.

“Simplicity is the peak of civilization.” – Jessie Sampter

A simple life has a different meaning and a different value for every person. For me, it means eliminating all but the essential, eschewing chaos for peace, and spending your time doing what’s important to you.

It means getting rid of many of the things you do so you can spend time with people you love and do the things you love. It means getting rid of the clutter so you are left with only that which gives you value.

However, getting to simplicity isn’t always a simple process. It’s a journey, not a destination, and it can often be a journey of two steps forward, and one backward.

If you’re interested in simplifying your life, this is a great starter’s guide (if you’re not interested, move on).

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